MENU OF RESILIENT BEHAVIORS 

MENU OF BEHAVIORS AND TINY GOALS

THEME

SAMPLE BEHAVIOR

SAMPLE TINY GOAL

Emotional Regulation

3-minute deep breathing

I want to build the habit of pausing for 3 minutes of deep breathing to avoid feeling overwhelmed and regain clarity throughout my day.

Grounding

Sensory walk

I deeply care about taking short sensory walks because it aligns with my value of being present—and I want to become someone who listens to my body.

Energy Recovery

10-minute reset break

I want to build the habit of taking 10-minute breaks to avoid burnout and stay energized for the people and work I care about.

Support Seeking

Text a friend

I want to text a friend when I feel off, because people around me value connection, and it fits naturally into my day when I’m feeling low.

Micro-Routines

Morning mantra

I deeply care about saying a morning mantra because it aligns with my value of intentional living—and I want to become someone who starts the day grounded.

Flexible Thinking

Reframe one challenge daily as an opportunity to learn or grow.

I deeply care about reframing challenges because it aligns with my values of curiosity and growth—and I want to become someone who sees possibility even in hardship.

Learning Agility

Watch/read one short video/article outside my usual interests each week.

I want to build the habit of consuming new ideas to avoid mental stagnation and gain fresh insights that help me grow personally and professionally.

Resilience Journaling

Journal 3 “micro-wins” at the end of each day, especially during transitions.

I want to build the habit of journaling my small wins because people around me value reflection and gratitude, and it fits naturally into my quiet evening routine.

Routine Experimentation

Change one part of my routine weekly to build cognitive flexibility.

I deeply care about experimenting with my routine because it aligns with my values of flexibility and lifelong learning—and I want to become someone who adapts with ease.

Crisis Readiness

Review my personal or team backup plan once a month.

I want to review my backup plan monthly to avoid being caught off guard and to gain peace of mind knowing I’m prepared.

Environment Shaping

Declutter my workspace at the end of each day.

I want to build the habit of clearing my desk daily to avoid feeling mentally cluttered and to gain a sense of calm focus for tomorrow.

Trigger Awareness

Track one stress trigger and create a simple mitigation strategy.

I deeply care about tracking my stress triggers because it helps me become someone who responds with awareness, not reactivity.

Assertive Communication

Notice a negative thought to reframe self-talk.

I want to reframe my self-talk to avoid self-doubt and gain confidence in how I show up for myself and others.

Digital Boundaries

Turn off notifications during focused work blocks.

I want to silence my notifications during focused time because people around me value presence and it fits my workflow when I need to get things done.

Personal Space

Create a small sanctuary corner at home that restores my peace.

I deeply care about having a peaceful space because it aligns with my value of inner calm and supports who I want to become—centered and grounded.

Media Diet

Set a 20-minute time block to disconnect from news and social media.

I want to limit my media intake to avoid emotional fatigue and gain back mental clarity for things that matter.

Self-Kindness

Write a compassionate letter to myself on hard days.

I deeply care about writing to myself with kindness because it aligns with my value of self-compassion and helps me become more emotionally resilient.



🔹 C – Coping Capacity: Regulate stress, recharge, and remain grounded.

THEME

BEHAVIOR

PROMPT

CELEBRATION

Emotional Regulation

3-minute deep breathing

After I close my laptop for lunch.

I'll put my hand on my heart and say “I’ve got this.”

Grounding

Sensory walk

After finishing a call or class

I'll say “I’m back in my body!” with a smile.

Energy Recovery

10-minute reset break

When I refill my glass with water or coffee

I'll stretch my arms wide and say “Yes, I chose rest!”

Support Seeking

Text a friend

After my first negative thought of the day

I'll take a deep breath and say “Connection over isolation.”

Micro-Routines

Morning mantra

After brushing my teeth

I'll snap my fingers and say “Today is mine.”



🔹 A – Adaptability: Embrace change, stretch perspectives, stay curious.

THEME

BEHAVIOR

PROMPT

CELEBRATION

Flexible Thinking

Reframe one challenge daily as an opportunity to learn or grow.

When I catch myself complaining

I'll say “Challenge = growth!” while tapping my chest.

Learning Agility

Watch/read one short video/article outside my usual interests each week.

After my last work task of the day

I'll say “I expanded today!” and fist-pump.

Resilience Journaling

Journal 3 “micro-wins” at the end of each day, especially during transitions.

Right before bed

Whisper “Yes, I’m making progress.” with a small smile.

Routine Experimentation

Change one part of my routine weekly to build cognitive flexibility.

Sunday night planning

Play a fun sound effect or song snippet.

Crisis Readiness

Review my personal or team backup plan once a month.

1st of each month

Do a “yes” nod and say “I’m ready



🔹 S – Sensitivity Reduction: Pause reactivity, foster emotional boundaries, build internal safety

THEME

BEHAVIOR

PROMPT

CELEBRATION

Cognitive Defusion

Notice a negative thought to reframe self-talk.

After a stressful email or message

Smile and say “I’m the observer, not the storm.”

Realistic Optimism

List one challenge I’ve overcome for every current worry.

After finishing a call or class

Say “I’m back in my body!” with a smile.

Boundaries

5-minute break before I can reengage when emotions rise.

During tension with someone

Say “That’s growth right there.” quietly to yourself.

Media Diet

Set a 20-minute time block to disconnect from news and social media.

After checking social media once

Say “I choose peace.” while turning off your phone.

Self-Kindness

Write a compassionate letter to myself on hard days.

After a tough day

Close the letter and say “I am worth this care.”




🔹 E – Exposure Control: Shape environments and boundaries that restore your energy.

THEME

BEHAVIOR

PROMPT

CELEBRATION

Environment Shaping

Declutter my workspace at the end of each day.

When I catch myself complaining

Say “Clear space, clear mind.” while clapping.

Trigger Awareness

Track one stress trigger and create a simple mitigation strategy.

After my second yawn or tension moment

Take a breath and say “I caught it!”

Assertive Communication

Practice saying “No, thank you” without apology once a week.

When asked for something I can’t take on

Smile and whisper “Strong and soft.”

Digital Boundaries

Turn off notifications during focused work blocks.

Before a focused task

Tap my phone and say “My focus is my power.”

Personal Space

Create a small sanctuary corner at home that restores my peace.

After making my bed or coffee

Sit in my space and say “This is my calm.”